Most new leaders when they first start leading a small group want all the children to like them and thus struggle to set clear boundaries for the group. Leaders don’t want to be the one that all the kids say is the grumpy leader so instead of setting boundaries they allow the children to run riot. This is not the way we are meant to lead!

Over the years I have discovered that the opposite is true, children look up to and respect those who set clear boundaries. They actually like the leader that is firm more than they do the soft leader who let’s them run riot but only if ONE VITAL ingredient is included…LOVE.

It’s no good being the leader that sets boundaries if you aren’t also the leader that tells them they are a champion, asks them about their sport match and prays with them. If you couple setting firm boundaries with lots of affirmation than every boy will love you and you will lead a controlled group also!

The message was based on Proverbs 29:18 – Where there is no vision, the people perish but rather then just speak on the need for vision we took it further into the how to of casting vision.

The most frequently asked questions I get in regard to Children Ministry is “How do I recruit new volunteers” and “how do I raise up leaders to carry the ministry in a greater capacity”. If either of these are your questions then I’m telling you that adopting a simple vision casting strategy will help solve much of the problems you face in this area. People want to be part of something bigger then themselves, so if you can cast the vision for your church and how your area plays a part in that, not just retell what your Pastor has said to motivate you but actually own it to the point where you are actually casting it as your vision then it will provide people with an opportunity to make a difference with their life! If people feel they will make a difference then you have solved much of the problems we face such as motivating leaders, getting them to recruit for us, getting them to grow in their involvement. Cast the vision don’t just tell it.

Three areas you need to include in casting:

1. Tell the ‘YOU’ story within the vision

When sharing the vision with potential leaders or those you are wanting to see step up make sure you personalize the vision. Share the impact it has had on your life personally, how you are adding to the big picture, how ministry is helping you fulfill your call in life, how the church has helped you.

2. Explain the possibilities if the vision

When casting vision you need them to ‘IMAGINE’ what life would be like if the vision was achieved. Imagine if every person who calls themselves a Christian actually stepped out of their comfort zone and lived like one. Imagine if every leader actually went out of their way to welcome every single new person. Imagine if…when you get people to imagine the thing you are trying to get them to step into then they begin to see the need for it and are compelled to be part of the answer. Outlining possibilities helps them to see inside your head and dream with you!

3. Outline what needs to happen

Once you have got people realizing that where we are currently at is not where we intend to stay you need to mobilize them by outlining strategies how to get to the vision. People don’t expect you to have all the answers but if you show them that the river is flowing then they are more likely to jump in then if it is a still stagnant pond. You have more grace also as a leader if you are trying to get something happening then if you are just bend on criticizing what isn’t working.

So there is the beginning of Vision Casting…next 2 weeks will be part 2 and 3 but here’s a quick summary to wet the appetite:

Part 2 – Winning people to the vision. In order to mobilize people you must first capture them. Part 1 included what to include in vision casting but this week will build on that and establish areas of a persons life that we need to speak to in order to win them to the vision.

Part 3 – Communication of the vision. It isnt enough to just have a vision in your heart nut you need to be able to pass it on and communicate it in all different settings and forms. This post will explain what settings you need to master and the how to of casting vision in each setting.

Until then be blessed and I pray you grow as a leader this week!

Nath

Presentation – Smile to parent and reassure them that you have got the situation under control even if the child is kicking and screaming. Get down on child’s level and speak to them in a reassuring voice. Do all you can to come across well to the child.

Distraction – Try your best to distract the child with a toy, playstation, bubbles, a walk outside, whatever you can use. If you can distract them long enough to get them to forget why they are upset they may just settle.

Play – Once you have got the child distracted then continue to play with them as when you leave they may just do the same thing and loose it again. Make them your little helper for the day and focus on them.

Reassess and Reassure – If after a while they haven’t settled then reassess the situation and if needed get the career to come and help. If they are doing fine then continue to reassure them tat you are a legend!

If all else fails pass them on to someone else as it may just be you they don’t like!